Master Your Anger Now!

Anger! We have to master our anger in daily life or our anger will master us. Unmanaged anger is dangerous and destructive. God gives us the emotion of anger to identify wrongs and injustices. However, anger is never good at solving any problem. Trouble arises when we do not recognize and control our own anger or frustration. Oftentimes, excuses are made, condoning poor behavior when we are angry. Instead of owning it, confessing it, and then changing the way we view and express our anger, anger masters us. Sin happens. People are hurt, lives, and personal property are destroyed. Learn to master your anger now!

Identify Anger To Master It

First, begin to identify the start of frustration or aggravation. Establish and identify your anger as being present. I am sure that you have heard of the straw that broke the camel’s back. Well, there was a lot more on that camel’s back before the tiny straw broke it. Unfortunately, it wasn’t identified in time to prevent the camel’s back from being broken. Anger is a buildable medium to work with. The Bible identifies anger as a spiritual issue. You have authority over a spirit of anger if you have accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior. In the early stages, anger is easier to bring under control. This gives you time to step away until the anger has cooled. At that point, better ways to fix the issue can be formulated. Identify anger in the early stages to head it off at the pass before it becomes uncontrollable rage.

Acknowledge Anger To Master It

Secondly, acknowledge and own your anger. You can’t control what you don’t own and acknowledge as yours. Placing blame on others or another type of scapegoat will never grant you mastery. So just OWN IT! Don’t deflect it or project it out on someone else. Say aloud, “I am angry!” I statements take ownership of the emotion of anger, not the reason for the anger. Feeling anger in and of itself is not a sin. It is what we “do” with our anger that has the potential to become sin. Murder, assault, damaged property and broken relationships are the outcomes of un-controlled anger. Rationalizing, excusing, and justifying anger gives permission for that anger to be harnessed in damaging ways. Rebuke the spirit of anger. Acknowledge anger so you can learn to master it before it masters you.

Confess Anger To Master It

Thirdly, confess anger in prayer to the Lord and others. Identify it, acknowledge it, and confess it. Confessing, even reluctantly, admits your anger. Confessing might bring embarrassment, due to the actions or verbiage expressed along with it. Reluctantly, or embarrassedly, confession is good for the soul. This allows for an open forum to learn new coping skills from others who have mastered their anger. Opening up the issue of anger by confessing it brings emotional healing. God shows us the way to deal with all our emotions, including anger. Study His word about anger by listening to or reading the Bible. Humankind is a community of imperfect people, learning life lessons as we go. Seek professional help if necessary. Confessing your anger is a step you will never regret.

Change Anger Response To Master It

Lastly, we can choose to change our response and coping abilities in order to master the powerful emotion called anger. Unresolved anger is associated with many avoidable mental disorders and adverse health conditions. After identifying, acknowledging, and confessing anger, you can now take authority over it and change how you respond to it. No one wants to be around an angry, bitter, hot-headed, belligerent person spoiling for a fight. If left unchanged, anger will leave you lonely, broken, and miserable. Change. It doesn’t come easy, but change is so very worth it. The end result of this change in how we proceed when we are angry brings mastery and self-control. Change anger, master it. Do not let anger master you!

Conclusion

Let me conclude by saying that you are not alone in the struggle to master anger and frustration. It helps to identify your anger. The root cause of it may not even be that person or situation you think it is. Discover it. Search out the root cause. Acknowledge and confess your anger. Forgive, make apologies for bad behavior or hurtful words, and repair where necessary. Be the bigger person. This way, you won’t carry around guilt or resentment. There will be no unresolved anger to project in damaging ways onto innocent victims in the future. Take authority over your anger and change how you respond. Take time to step away for a minute until the topic can be discussed in a more civil and factual way instead of letting an uncontrolled emotional response rule. Master your anger now!