Married Valentines must choose to keep romance in bloom. After years of being married, it is easy to slip into roommate status. Most people do not marry only to live “with” the love of their life but because they just “can’t live without” the love of their life. However, there are multiple daily situations that pull every couple in different directions. Romance and communication suffer, and then ultimately the relationship. I am not referring to a fairy-tale, that only happens in the movies, kind of thing. But being married Valentines requires some “seed planting” to be able to harvest both present and future romance in bloom.
Choosing To Plant
Married Valentines have to “CHOOSE” to plant the right type of seeds in order to keep romance blooming in their relationship. In the dating phase, time was set aside, plans where made, outfits were picked out with care, and special places were chosen to meet up at. This was planting the seeds for romance to bloom. The stage was set for an optimal time for conversation and food. Away from all the responsibilities and concerns of life. These dating choices plant good memories that keep good vibes happening. The “I like you” and want to spend “more time” with you feelings. You will never regret choosing to plant more positive experiences with your spouse. Married Valentines MUST choose to plant good comments, forgiveness, sincere prayers, future vacations, and time for each other in order for romance to stay in bloom.
Neglecting To Plant
It doesn’t take much foresight to know what will happen if married Valentines neglect to plant seeds for future romance. The number of marriages that end in divorce is truly sad. When divorce happens, it just doesn’t affect adults. Children pay a high price in the fallout as the family disintegrates. Neglecting to make time to plan and choose to build a relationship is like having a home and NEVER making a repair or planning a renovation. Homes that have received new coats of paint, new appliances, beautiful décor, and comfortable furniture create a beautiful atmosphere. Or picture it this way; imagine a yard that is only mowed once or twice a year? Neglecting to plant seeds of kindness, love, and hope for your married Valentine will erode the relationship even if the marriage stays intact. Don’t neglect to plant seeds for romance to bloom.
How To Plant
Married Valentines have an overall advantage of knowing their spouse well enough to know what they need and like. Update that information by taking time to listen and truly hear the heart of your spouse. Gary Chapman wrote a book titled, “The Five Love Languages,” that is fantastic about learning the love language that your spouse most responds to. Quite frankly, it works with other relationships as well. We all do not show and receive love exactly the same.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV)
Show love through acts of kindness and respect. Sarcastic words, which are sometimes meant to be funny, are actually hurtful put downs. Practice speaking kindly to and about your spouse. Forgiveness is key to allowing past hurts and mistakes to stay in the past. Don’t keep bringing up those issues. Forgive. Learn to speak kindly. Plan couple time to look forward to. Communicate sincerely. Listen. Be on the same team and work toward common goals. Find a half of dozen things about your spouse that you are genuinely grateful for and talk about that instead. Dream together. Share life together. Work along side each other. Build. Repair. Plant. Harvest. Be Valentines with romance in bloom.
Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Ephesians 4:31-32 KJV
Conclusion – Romance WILL Bloom!
Married Valentines feel loved, respected, and honored when those seeds start blooming. There are all kinds of beautiful flowering annuals for all seasons in the year. In order for them to bloom, someone has to plant the seeds and water the plant. No matter what season your marriage is currently in, take a moment and plant seeds for true love and romance in the future. Update your spouse’s preferences and needs. Renovate your relationship. Watch love, honor, and romance bloom! Married Valentines can cultivate and enjoy romance in bloom! Happy Valentine’s Day! Be Blessed!
Food for thought not just on Valentine’s Day but daily too.
For sure! It is a lifestyle choice. <3